Couple Therapy

Key Aspects for Couples

Many therapeutic approaches offer valuable insights into important aspects of relationships. For example, using methods from Gottman, the Solution-Focused Model, and Jay Haley, some of the key areas to consider include:

Understanding your partner’s inner world (their worries, joys, and goals).
How you approach your partner.
How each partner feels about the relationship.
How conflicts are handled.
Supporting each other’s life dreams.
Commitment and trust within the relationship.
Self-regulation, communication skills, and behavioral changes.
Acceptance, awareness, and attachment.
Hope and shared expectations.
Beliefs about what makes a happy relationship or marriage.

Red Flags to Watch for in Your Relationship

It’s common to hear myths about what’s “right” or “wrong” in a relationship. The truth is, it’s normal for couples to have conflicts, disagreements, and different ways of doing things. But it’s important to pay attention when certain feelings or patterns start to show up:

You feel annoyed or uncomfortable, which makes you want to avoid your partner or become indifferent.
You have growing doubts about the future of the relationship.
You start to see your partner in a way that feels unwanted or negative.
Anger keeps building up toward your partner.
Conflicts lead to more aggressive reactions over time.
You feel hopeless about getting care or understanding from your partner.
There’s a noticeable lack of affection or emotional connection.

How Can Couple Therapy Help?

While no method can guarantee 100% success in couples therapy, it’s important to remember that each relationship is unique, and many factors play a role.

Therapy provides an opportunity to learn how to live better together and approach conflicts with more openness and understanding.

The process typically starts with three sessions: the first one with both partners together, followed by two individual sessions if considered, and then a second joint session. After this, we can decide whether to continue with therapy or conclude with helpful recommendations for moving forward.

Treatment: Agreement and Actions

One key challenge in couples therapy is getting both partners equally committed. Often, one may feel frustrated by relationship issues while the other doesn’t see them as significant. This can lead to differing intentions for therapy.

The first session helps assess each partner’s feelings, experiences, and awareness of the relationship dynamics. It lays the foundation for future sessions by exploring your relationship’s history, values, and conflict-resolution skills.

Therapy includes exercises to improve communication, raise awareness of automatic reactions, and change negative behavior patterns to foster healthier interactions.

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What to Expect from Therapy

Starting therapy is a courageous step toward improving your relationship. You can expect to gain new insights into your partner’s feelings and perspectives, learn healthier communication skills, and develop tools to manage conflicts more constructively.

Many couple finds that it helps them reconnect, rebuild trust, and create a stronger emotional bond.

What drastically changes is the opportunity to observe the reactions, answers, and content of the arguments from another place. This allows going a step back before saying or doing something that could direct to an unpleasant outcome. We will develop a process focusing on one problem at a time, prioritizing the ones that affect the well-being of the relationship more.

Feel free to write to me whether you have questions regarding how you can be helped or about the treatment.

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